DD's friend has sticky fingers.

[Little Pet Crazy]

About a month after christmas we couldn't find Savannah's Digital pet and we tore the house apart several times We still cannot find it. They had two girls over for their birthday and after that the digital is gone??? We are sure the one wouldn't have taken it but the other girls is starting to look more suspicious.

Now dd tells me that her friend had the little snowmobile that came with the St. Bernard over at here house and mysteriously we are missing ours??? The girl said that she found it somewhere...

What are your thoughts on this please. Should I ban her from coming over to the house? I have given that girl so many extra pets and lots of our extra accessories and to find that she has taken one. Its frustrating. Should I just ban her from playing with the LPS? Any thoughts?

[mrs"e"]

Ask her about it first. The confrontation may be enough to deter any "sticky finger syndrome". If you still believe you can't trust her, then I wouldn't allow her in my home. People treat you the way you let them. And if she doesn't respect your stuff......see ya!

[starchaser022]

I have a friend who is the same way. I've known her since I was 12 years old. She has taken my CDs, my game boy games, my tamagatchi's, and even my computer games. Once, she even tried to snag my Ipod. The first time it happened was when I was 13 and she came over and I showed her my Pikachu tamagatchi. She said that she used to have one, but her mom threw it out and she never got a new one. The next day, mine went mysteriously missing. I didn't even think to accuse her, until a week later I went to her house for a sleepover and there was my Pikachu sitting on top of her TV in her bedroom, with the very distinct K for Kristi written on the back. So I waited till she was downstairs and I snatched it back. I was only 13 and I didn't know how to confront her about it then, so I was just satisfied w/ getting it back. Then it continued to happen. It happened with an entire batch of about 20 CDs. I new she had taken them, so instead of confronting her, my sister and I put on a facade that she (my sister) was mad at me b/c she thought that I lost all of our CDs (we played a major guilt trip on her) and she caved and said that the CDs had "accidentally" fallen into her bag. Till, this day I still have not confronted her directly about what she has taken of mine. I just watch her very closely when she comes over my house.

I know that I really should confront her, and I think that you should definitely confront that girl who is stealing from you. I really regret not going to my friend the first time that I knew she took something of mine.

[LPS NANA]

I agree with "e" I would confront her first. Hopefully this will deter her from stealing from the girls again. If you find it didn't then I will definately ban her from your home.

Just tell her your not accusing her but you want her to be honest with you because if items come up missing again that you will have no choice but to not let your daughters friends play with their LPS. Hopefully she will be honest.

[Huntress]

What a sticky situation

It kind of makes the whole "playdate" thing a big pain instead of a good and enjoyable time.

It's really hard to confront anyone without being accusatory and at the same time not having the hard facts to support it. And especially when it's a kid. Then parents get involved and feelings get hurt...

If a kid has a bad habit like that and it hasn't been addressed by anyone yet, it's possible that she'll never own up to it. Maybe she'll be afraid that her parents will be really angry at her, that can make not admitting the truth also.

But I think just talking to her about and see how she'll react, is a good start.

How much does your daughter like this girl? What does your DD say about the whole thing?

Putting away the LPS collections is always an option but girls do like to play with it.

[tookmo]

WOW, glad to hear I'm not alone, but not glad to hear it happened to you.

I just had 2 separate sleep overs with girls we haven't had over because we are always missing things and I don't get it because I'm the same way...making sure no one goes home empty by giving them a LPS or Webkinz, etc.

This time things started circulating on MSN that one girl showed the other girl on MSN Camera what she had that was new. Faith Love & Hope rocks...like the beautiful ones laid out in the bathroom with one of my favorite scriptures.

I just phoned the mom last night and said that I was sorry for the accusation, however, if I was wrong then I would apologize for jumping to conclusions, but if I was right then hopefully we could help the child stop the need to take things before they take from the wrong person.

DD is awesome about it and throws her hands up in the air and says no more sleep overs. What's the point. Why does everyone steal from us?

It burned me when my daughter was 5 or 6 and someone accused her at school for stealing a LPS...we had over 100+ at the time and in the end, the accuser stole from us during a playdate.

It's so unfortunate. It gives a bad rap to playdates. I told DD that we could put everything that is important away when friends come over ---------long pause-----------------yahhh, as she looks around at the entire house.

It causes so much tension between kids and groups at school and now, even some moms, who don't want to accept that their child has stickie fingers and besides ragging you out from guilt, they end both friendships.

It's very frustrating. I never hired babysitters for this reason and its too bad because I feel a lot of honest babysitters didn't receive work because of this.

Joan

[Little Pet Crazy]

Thank you all for the advice. I will definately talk to her about it. I don't want to accuse her because she is her best friend. BFF necklace level.

I understand that my girls have a lot and that most of the kids have not seen some of the pets that we have and they might think because they have so many that they wont miss one. Well if it is a rare hard to find one then yes we will miss it. And the accessories I am not so concerned about having but when it is taken without permission that bothers me. We had the little boxcar go missing to but I am not sure if she took it or it is missing.

I would gladly get some of the LPS that I get from you wonderful friends on the board for their friends. I offerd to get some before and very rudely got back "I can take care of my own daughter!" So since then I have not offered to get any and if she does come over I usually just giver her one or two of my extras. Becuase I don't want her to get in trouble. I was just offering to get some of the newer ones that you will never see here. Oh well...

We have a big pool/slumber party planned for this summer so I think that I will be putting the LPS away. They want to have 6 girls over and the temptation just might be too much for sticky fingers and then I will have to try to figure out which one took anything. Thanks so much for the advice.

[Danisa]

Ask the parents where she got the St.Bernard's sled

[lpscollector4life]

Unless they collect too, they won't know. My parents buy and forget! I am sorry you lost the snowmobile! Mine broke but it was so cute!